I was thinking about the phrase “love is blind”, and after some googling I found that it was first used in the year 1401 in Merchant’s Tale written by Geoffrey Chaucer. Tell a Nigerian “love is blind” and they will reply by telling you “my love has eyes and they are wide open”. The bible describes in full what love is in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, and it does not say blind. Certain website interprets this phrase as;
- Loving someone regardless of logic
- Looks are not important, all that matters is the heart
- Your emotions are clouded
- You are in love so you overlook each other’s mistakes
- You cannot see a problem or flaw in your partner
All these interpretations are well and good. I also recognize that there are health or physical challenges that one might face. However, as beautiful as this phrase is, there is no Godly wisdom attached to it. Everything born out of man’s wisdom is short lived, brings with it certain fears and it eventually fails. The love described in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 is not dependent on anything a human being does, is or has. Almighty God sees and knows everything about you, so his love is not blind but rather, it is eternal. I love the stories of people who met Christ during near death experiences because they all said when they looked at Christ, his eyes showed eternity. I see that eternity as my child there is no length I would not go to show you love.
So I want to ask, what happens when logic fails? What happens when you no longer understand the person’s heart and your emotions are no longer clouded? What happens when you get tired of overlooking each other’s mistakes and you start to recognize flaws? Will there ever be growth if mistakes and flaws are disregarded? Will there ever be teaching and learning moments? Can a meaningful relationship be built on these grounds? As an example, I was very obsessed with cleaning every drop of water I find on my floors. Yes it is good to clean but I gave myself lots of stress and headaches because somehow water always spills. My husband could have said “Chi its ok, I accept you this way because my love for you is blind”. Instead he said enough with the pain pills and gave me a one hour lecture on how to chill and not worry over everything like Martha in the bible. That was growth, that was a teaching and learning moment and it improved my health.
The love Jesus speaks about is not a feeling, rather an eternal gift planted into everyone from time of conception. I say this because God said in Jeremiah 1:5 “I knew you before you were formed in your mother’s womb”. God’s nature is love and since we are made in his image, we all carry the exact same nature because as he is so are we (1John 4:16-18). I recognize that a lot of people doubt God’s love because of the trials, back stabbings, heart breaks and pains they have been through. From the Garden of Eden to now, Satan’s main mission is to deceive us into thinking that God never loved us. He creates a different version of love which is ungodly, self-gratifying, and full of pain, conditions and rights.
I have had my fair share of pain, and through it all I still see the intense love that Jesus has for me. How and why? Brethren, the problem we have is that our generation fixates on temporary (seen) instead of eternal (unseen) (2 Corinthians 4:18). I have come to truly understand what John 3:16 meant. Jesus died on the cross because he loved me and thus gave me power over trials. The trials we go through are only to perfect the spirit for the eternal glory which is to come. Brethren, life is fleeting and I know this may sound confusing to many but the next time you face trial, take a deep breath, focus your mind on eternity, focus on Jesus on the throne, focus on his love, focus on the promise not the problem and you will understand (2 Corinthians 4: 6-18).
Jesus reconciled us to God through the cross, brought us back into a relationship with God and destroyed Satan’s plans. Each time I had a miscarriage, the greater love I felt because I felt my spirit increase in power. The more love I had, the more I could give to others. Eternal love though pure, will definitely deal with your shortcomings and weakness otherwise it is not a relationship. I said earlier that the perfect love of Jesus endows your spirit and gives you power over trials. Like Pastor Crefflo Dollar says “everybody got some issues” and you cannot understand this perfect love until you have been through the fire/trials.
In this fire, God’s love is not blind because he will chastise you, empower you, grant you grace and rest (Revelations 3:19 “Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline, so be zealous and repent”; Job 5:17 “Behold, blessed is the one whom God reproves; therefore despise not the discipline of the almighty”). Beloved, love is relationship and God is waiting for us to accept that love openly in every aspect of our lives (family, school, marriage or work).
If we take marriage as an example, you will experience God’s intense love as he helps you and your partner deal with your shortcomings. According to 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, I will give you some examples of love in marriage;
- You know love endures long after you have experienced loss, financial set backs and worked through the pain
- You know love is not envious nor boastful because you have discussed your insecurities and have clearly recognized when self-gratification is in play
- You know love is not arrogant because you have both had disagreements and decided never to use sarcastic words or show each other who is more intelligent
- You know love is not prideful once you both realize that saying I am sorry does not remove a hair from your head
- You know love is not rude because you both learnt how not to disrespect each other in public or even in private
- You know love pays no attention to wrong done because after several fights you realize that there are better things in life than to fight over insignificant things
- You know love sees the best because you know each other’s habits (good and bad) and now you complement each other
- You know love trusts and protects because you have fought side by side in battles that can only be won in the supernatural
People want the testimonies and not the test, they want the victories and not the cross, and they want the harvest but never planted a seed. Jesus paid a heavy price for love and even if it was just one person in the world, he would do it again (John 15:13). Brethren, love is not all about the butterflies you feel in your stomach, it is not ride or die, it is not you jump I jump, it is not Shakespeare, it is much more than the natural eyes can see. Some might say Chichi this is just too much and why take a simple phrase as love is blind so far?
Brethren in these last days, what you say, what you think, what your eyes see and where your feet go are very important. A lady once told me that she wanted to be found and that she never gets loved. I was unmarried at that time and I told her to seek the face of the one who loved her first (1 John 4:19). Fast forward a year later, she was married to a man she met at church kneeling next to her and asking the Lord for the exact same thing she needed.
I came across a YouTube video of a dog in the rain always sitting by the road side. One man in particular took that same road to work every day, and each time he would play with the dog and go to work. This happened four days in a row, until this dog chose to walk up to the man and looked up at him (seeking the face of his love). The man could not shake the feeling that this dog was lost and needed more love. The most interesting part of the video was when the man carried the dog on his shoulder and the dogs eyes closed as if to say I have found my love and my resting place.
Do you feel unloved, unwanted, pain, deserted, disappointed or heartbroken? Seek the face of him that first loved you. In Jesus, everything you ever want or need is fulfilled (John 15:7) because through him we are born and bound to love. Embrace the cross and all that comes with it, you will find that life partner who will stand by you through the fire, you will have that friend or colleague that supports you, you will experience a different kind of love from your parents and children. May the Lord bless these words in Jesus name, Amen.