Stronghold: Offence and Unforgiveness

Satan’s job is to continuously torment the children of God, and for that to happen, he needs an entry point. One of those entry points is through offence and unforgiveness. When we keep that door of offence open, demons gain access into our conscious and subconscious space. The Lord is consistently speaking to my heart about this area because of my past. Satan is very persistent with his attacks and if we do not have our guards up, we will find ourselves running around in circles. No healing, no victory and no peace.

Unforgiveness puts both yourself and the offender in jail so that none of you will ever experience the blessings of God to the fullest. When I watched the video called The Lazarus Phenomenon, it broke me to find out that so many Christians have run this race but missed heaven because of unforgiveness. Many people say we use hell to scare them to believe in Jesus. I am being 100 per cent real with you, I am scared of hell. I do not want to run this race and miss the mark because I held on to an offence that didn’t change my life or the other person. Hell is a place devoid of the presence of our loving Father because it is meant for Satan and his demonic agents, not for the children of God. The only time we have to rectify our mistakes and behaviour is here because when we die, our free will is gone.

Paul tells us in Ephesians 4:27 “Do not give the devil an opportunity to lead you into sin by holding a grudge, or nurturing anger or harbouring resentment or cultivating bitterness”. Remember that every part of your life (health, marriage, business, work, relationship, and ministry) is a potential entry point for Satan to invade and build an offence wall towards others, so we must be on guard. Just like poison, Satan spits his pride into our ears and grants himself entrance when we refuse to acknowledge or admit our wrongs, fail to forgive others, refuse to let go of the past hurts, refuse to be second place for the sake of others  and  refuse to say sorry when we are in the wrong.

Forgiveness does not excuse what the offender did; rather it allows God to work in that person’s life. When you forgive someone, it doesn’t mean your relationship with that person will be as it used to, however, it opens the door for a possible reunion later in life. Can you truly forgive someone? Yes, you can truly forgive someone by choosing not to remember the past offence. If in an argument, I remind my husband of his past offences towards me, then I have not forgiven him. People always say “forgive and forget”. That is quite inaccurate because our brains are like computers, so we do not forget. It’s like saying that God forgets our sins when he says “their sins I will remember no more” (Hebrews 8:12; Isaiah 43:25). God does not forget, instead, he is choosing not to remember them because of his loving-kindness.

I always wondered why God created the human brain such that its memories remain intact. It will be easier to just not remember the offences, and Satan has invested in pills that allow people to just forget their past hurts. Then I ask, how can we truly know what still lies in our hearts and minds? These trials, offences and hurts all make up our individual stories and I believe that if we can overcome the challenge of forgiving and loving someone even in the midst of offence, we cross over to a higher life in the supernatural. The heart and mind must be one my friends, and Revelations 21:27 says “But nothing unworthy will be allowed to enter. No one who is dirty-minded or who tells lies will be there. Only those whose names are written in the Lamb’s book of life will be in the city (heaven)”.

In Matthew 18:21-35, we see how the master forgave his servant for his debt and yet, the same servant could not forgive his fellow servant for their debt. The master sentenced this unforgiving servant to be tortured in prison.  When Jesus was done with this parable, he said: “My heavenly Father will also do the same to everyone who does not forgive his brother from their hearts”. I believe that the torturers in this parable represent demons that are waiting to pounce on the children of God. I had so much anger towards my dad that in my ignorance, I actually tried to search for scriptures that would justify my anger. Instead, I stumbled upon Jesus telling Peter in Mathew 18:22 that we must forgive seventy times seven (this is an eternity to me). We have two choices, take the high road and forgive or take the low road and continue in anger (which will create more resentments, guilt and greater grounds for Satan’s stronghold).

The one who is forgiven much loves more!!!

God has freely forgiven us, so why did we still hold on to anger?  I don’t know about you but each time I was angry at someone and had to say the Lord’s Prayer (forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespassed against us), it felt like I stabbed myself.

Jesus spoke so much about unforgiveness and offence because he wants us to understand that if we are to reach that higher calling of God in our lives, we must exhibit a heart of love. The problem we are facing is that we fail to see things through the eyes of God. Whenever someone offends you, please stop and realise that Satan is the real enemy and his intent is to accuse that person in your mind. Just take a moment to reflect on all the careless things you ever did that should have cost you your life, marriage, job or relationships but instead, God forgave and gave you a second chance. When you do this, you will begin to realise how small the offences are and forgiveness will start to become second nature.

So the question today is can you forgive that father that hurt you so bad? Can you forgive that friend who let you down when you needed them? Can you forgive your boss even after he pays you less than what you are worth? Can you forgive that spouse who took you for granted? Can you forgive the man that raped you? Can you forgive that parent who ran out on you and never looked back? Can you forgive the person that murdered someone you loved? Can you forgive those who took advantage of you?

We can only do his with the help of the Holy Spirit, who lights our path, convicts us of sin, shows us how to live and tells us the truth about God’s words. I pray that the Holy Spirit gives us the strength to shut Satan out of every part of our lives and grant us the willingness to forgive each other, let go of the past and walk in freedom. Amen!!!

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